Pete Walker wrote a 13-step list for managing flashbacks in his excellent book,
C-PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving. (available on Amazon)
1. The first step is acknowledging that a flashback is happening.
2. The second step is reminding yourself that the emotion that comes with the flashback is not more accurate than the present moment. "I am safe here in the present" is a helpful statement to say to yourself at this step.
3. The third step reminds you to leave any unsafe situations.
4. The fourth step helps us speak reassuringly to our frightened inner child. "I'm keeping you safe this time," may be helpful to say aloud.
What's something everyone wants? To be loved. When we focus on getting love, we give our power away to an unknown person in the future. Then we wait for something we need. Remember that romantic love is great, but it's not the only great love.
What's something everyone has? To be loving. My mom shared a poem with me when I was miserable in middle school - I was not too fond of it at first. She recited it to me when she saw me feeling lonely, "I went out to find a friend and friends could not be found, I went out to be a friend and friends were all around." She taught me that love was within me. I didn't have to wait for love to feel it.
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Dawna is a therapist, author, and instructor. She loves helping people remember and restore self-worth. Dawna created Worth-conscious Theory to help others understand their Birthright Self-worth and learn how to maintain their worthiness.
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